Make Your Marriage a Forever Team

Make your marriage a forever team
Never let anything come between you
Look at each other with the highest esteem
While strengthening your commitment too

In honor of National Marriage week

Simply knowing the critical effect marriage has on children and society doesn't make having a happy marriage easy. To succeed in marriage, men and women must overcome the most common weakness of humanity: that of selfishness. We hope that understanding how crucial marriage is will help create some incentive to strengthen your love and commitment to your spouse and family. Here are ten tips to help you do just that. First for the husbands...

Tips for Him

Be Gentle - Your actions, words, and thoughts affect her deeply--be gentle. Complements and suggestions reach the core of her being.

Eliminate harshness or criticism. Resolve any differences in private where you can be open, collected, and kind in your approach.

Be Open and Honest - Total openness is essential for a healthy relationship. Becoming a predictable, blending of each other's mind raises the level of trust and marital fulfillment. Take time to talk. By sharing your interests and feelings you strengthen your relationship.

Share the Leadership - Listen to her, counsel with her and often follow her lead. Contribute to a faith-based home by leading out in prayer, religious study, giving service, and weekly family time.

Concern Yourself With Her - Be genuinely interested in her hair, clothes, peer relationships, and on and on. These things affect her life, so they affect your marriage--be interested in them.

Have Fun Together Pressures will mount and more and more things will demand your individual time and energy, but life together was intended to be full and rich. Make sure it is.

Tips for Her

Appreciate and Admire - Appreciate that he spends most of his time in pursuit of your comfort and happiness. His confidence is increased when you express admiration and appreciation. Look for his goodness and strengths. Let him know he is your hero.

Be Attractive - Know what his appearance preferences are and wear them. He has a responsibility to maintain his appearance for you as well.

Create Peace and Order - Organize your home. Make it a peaceful place to be where you can listen and share each other's burdens and joys. Try to have at least one meal together every day.

Persuade in Kindness - Compliment, ask and wait. Make sure he understands your needs. He will fulfill them when he can. Respect his counsel and advice. Include him in your decisions. Let him know you appreciate his leadership by honoring his manhood.

Keep Dating - Share his adventures, hobbies and interests. Make time to have fun together. Be fiercely committed. Let nothing come between you. Make yours a "forever" team.

Social science data new and old clearly indicates that happy marriages are the seed bed of society. Join us in celebrating National Marriage Week by doing something to create and protect happy marriages--especially YOURS!

Sincerely,


Carol Soelberg
Chapter Development Director
United Families International


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